As therapists, we don't want to fall into the trap of suggesting how a client should feel. This carries with it several issues, including value judgments that can be inherent in our (seemingly innocuous) questions (e.g. "So that makes you feel sad, doesn't it"?might suggest that there is something wrong with the client if he/she doesn't, in fact, feel sad). Take a look at this site (link below), which goes beyond your readings a bit and discusses the optimal client-therapist relationship with MI. http://chcr.umich.edu/how_we_do_it/health_theories/healththeories3/chcr_document_view