Consider a situation at work that you want to address, or one which you wished you had dealt with more effectively:

Practice using the See, Feel, Seek, Consequences format to analyze the behavior that is a concern, the impact of that behavior, the performance you seek, and the positive or negative consequences if the person succeeds or doesn$$t succeed in making the desired changes.

Use the reflective questions below to determine how best to message the concern. Record your thoughts on the ILP.

$$ What do I want for myself?

$$ What do I want for others $($including the employee$)?$

$$ What do I want for the relationship?

$$ How would I behave if I really wanted those results?