in a paragraph responding to this discussion post that is answering these questions. Give an opinion on these responses/thoughts.

1.Of Vangelisti's 10 forms of hurtful communication, which do you believe is the most hurtful to the receiver?Why?

After reading the given resources, it is evident that the speech act regarding lying is the most hurtful communication. The level of hurt may vary from person to person, but the deceptive action remains present and damaging. This form of hurtful communication coincides with the most frequently occurring form which is the speech act of receiving informative statements. Both can impact a relationship in a negative way, but the degree of hurtfulness could also vary depending on the relationship type. "Scholars have argued that the level of hurt experienced by an individual as the result of another's hurtful communication is greater when the individual is unable to contest or refute those types of informative statements, or when they do not have control over what is implied by the informative statement," (Vangelisti, 2007). In relation to deceptive statements, they also create an atmosphere where uncertainty develops. Just like deceptive statements, informative statements are also uncontrollable. As a result, both could be damaging upon delivery.

2.Based on the reading when parents and children discuss hurtful episodes why does "forcing" teachable moments often backfire?

Considering that hurt is a feeling that is expected to be present in parent-adolescent relationships, follow-up conversations should be treated delicately in the sense that the child is able to be receptive of the communication without matters worsening. This is a special type of bond, so typically emotions can be higher in comparison to aregular friendship.These moments may backfire in situations where children express emotional distress when it pertains to voicing how they feel. "Understanding another person's perspective is often enough to allow coordination with others," (McLeod & Chaffee, 1973). Let's use corporal punishment as an example. When a child misbehaves, and the parent results to this type of discipline, the communication around why this was the punishment of choice many not be clear to the child . The child may not fully understand why they are being disciplined. Without having a conversation with them regarding their behavioral issues, they may begin to create their own forms of retaliation like shutting down, talking back, or even becoming secretive. Although there is a point that the parent is trying to get across, when proceeding with teachable moments, it is important to also consider how the message is being received.It is important to recognize the child's feelings whiletrying to assist them with the proper communication tools towork through conflict. Providing a level of understanding gives the child the opportunity tobe vulnerableand honest during reconcile. As a result, a platform has been created where the parent and child can both attempt to have a good line of communication in their relationship.