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This assignment has must be two page essay.Answer the following questions. Be as honest, specific, and detailed as you possibly can be. Tell me a story that makes me "see you" in action. If you can't remember doing any of these things, go out and do them now then tell me about what happened. Ideally you describe situations at Work, but these may be from social situations at school or in your personal life. Tell me where you: 1. Accepted Praise Gracefully.

2. Flattered Someone Else (Sincerely).

3. Did not flaunt special privileges or responsibilities.

4. Shared the Credit - Let someone else be a Winner along with you

The above abilities to "play well with others" are skills needed for the jobs described in Discussion 2 and for most other jobs of the future

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Example 1

When it comes to playing well with others, I think most people would say that I am agreeable and pleasant. I often play a "peacekeeping" or conciliatory role, which has been a personal strength at times. Other times, however, it frustrates me because I find that I put myself, my needs, or my ideas down to please others or to keep the general peace. For me, playing well with others in life and at work would mean having the freedom to express myself to my fullest while also being a good team member.

I have a lot of trouble remembering a time that I accepted praise gracefully. My problem is not to do with celebrating or reveling in praise too much, but that I have trouble accepting compliments. I get this rush of embarrassment whenever someone compliments me due to inner insecurities I have that I am never enough. My usual response to praise is to deflect or to change the subject. For example, I often say that it "wasn't much" and then talk about how someone else's work was better in my opinion. I think I have a fear of looking full of myself.

I have been trying to improve on this aspect of how I relate to others. More recently, I have become aware of how I feel when I am praised and look to respond in ways that are more genuine. A few weeks ago, some professors praised me for my performance in a challenging course I was taking even though I was struggling with depression and eventually had to go on a medical leave of absence from my university. Multiple professors at my school complimented my performance in that class. Some said that I am a diligent and resourceful student. Others noted that the subject (a biological science) is a natural talent of mine.

Rather than deflecting or changing the subject, most of the time I was able to acknowledge the compliments for what they were. In other words, I did not downplay my success or indulge in it. For example, I often responded with, "Yeah, it was hard at times, but the material also clicks for me I think." I think this type of response acknowledges that I did indeed do a good job, but it also shows that it was not "magic" and that I had to work for what I got. A big part of my trouble with accepting praise is that I feel I look insincere if I accept it too freely. I think this is because I do not like it when people assume that there is something "special" about me. I liked my response in this situation because it acknowledged that while I may be talented at certain things, it is meaningless without my time and effort. Receiving praise is much more enjoyable when I can accept parts of it while explaining the parts that don't feel right to me. I suppose I am also learning that my usual response of one-word, avoidant answers is not as rewarding as actually having discourse with someone. Most people are understanding.

Being able to receive praise with sincerity has also helped me to understand what makes for a genuine compliment to other people. I used to struggle with finding things that I appreciate in others and would settle on rather superficial things like physical appearance. The first compliment I received that truly made me feel warm was being called "admirable" for my extremely diligent study habits. I remember loving the word "admirable." It was specific and pertinent, and because of that, I could tell that it was a genuine feeling this person had towards me. I felt recognized.

When I compliment others, I aim to express something I honestly feel about them. I try to tap into a genuine feeling I have about who a person is and what they value, and I create a compliment that addresses these essential aspects of who they are. I aim to make people feel recognized for the talents they know they have, but for which they rarely feel recognized. Recently, I was tutoring an acquaintance, *** in Biochemistry. The subject was not her strong suit, and it was evident to both of us that she was not going to pass the course no matter how much assistance I gave her.

I remember asking myself why I was tutoring her. I don't usually choose to tutor people, but I remember noticing that *** was a very quietly diligent person. She did not over-react or demand attention, even when she was entirely left behind on the subject. In the same situation, I would be freaking out and desperately begging for help from people. *** also, did not speak English very well, but she never said a thing about how it slowed her down or how anything slowed her down. She was a student in need of help, and her reaction of quiet, unassuming, uncomplaining diligence impressed me. I told her that almost explicitly one day, saying that I don't mind tutoring her because I can see she tries hard and works honestly. I remember that she seemed flattered and smiled for a long time.

I think my compliment worked well because I based it on truth, and I recognized something essential about ***. I also stated it somewhat factually so that it didn't seem like I needed a compliment back. I hope that I was able to make her feel the way I did when someone called me "admirable."

I was asked to be a general chemistry lab TA this past quarter, a responsibility that few people get chosen for at my school and that requires excellence in the subject area. I was thrilled and proud that I was offered the opportunity and took it up. I remember being conscious of the fact that many of my peers had struggled through general chemistry and that "showing off" about being a lab TA may come across as insensitive. Additionally, I wanted to appear like a fellow student to my lab students, not someone who was better than them or that was intimidating in any way.

In this case, I made a very conscious decision not to flaunt my special privileges as a lab TA. I almost never mentioned it to my peers, unless I was stating it factually or to explain something that happened. This way, I appeared approachable rather than "different." Additionally, when it came to teaching the lab, I decided that I wanted to be more like a fellow student than a teacher to my class. I shared my experiences being a student in the class, including struggles and failures. However, I avoided talking about difficult courses they would have to take in their future that I had already finished. I wanted to be grounded in the task at hand as someone who had already experienced the difficulties they were experiencing now.

I was tasked recently with building a model of an eco-friendly building. My friend and I designed the project together. She was in charge of cutting out the wood pieces, staining them, and gluing them together, while I was responsible for the roofing and the windows, which I went all out on by making fake stained glass.

When it came to presenting our eco-friendly building, each group was asked to display their creation while people walked around the room. Everybody loved our building, and most of their compliments were on the "pretty" parts of the building like the stained glass and the mini roofing tiles. I remember that my friend's portion of the work was left out since it was more foundational and less noticeable in the finished product.

I didn't feel it was fair that my partner's hard work was not getting recognized, especially while mine was. My job was dependent on hers. With every little presentation, I dedicated a portion of time to what my friend had achieved too. I described how hard it was to use the woodwork tools and to glue the pieces together. I explained every step of the process of making the house so that it was apparent that it was a team effort. I think I got the point across because compliments on our project stopped being directed at me and were instead directed at the both of us. I am glad both of us were able to enjoy accepting due praise.

It is interesting to think how we must have these "getting along" skills to work in the modern workplace. The experiences I wrote about all have to do with personal or school experiences, but I can see that even they all help develop necessary human skills. I remember that many teachers throughout high school and college talked about "modern tools" such as Internet communication and working on projects remotely. There was a considerable emphasis on the ability to communicate well with others. I wonder if it was this strongly emphasized in past generations when manufacturing jobs were the norm.

I can see that part of being a good team member and contributor to a workplace is a process of getting along with people while allowing yourself to shine through. It requires a lot of tact and reflection since it is hard to balance yourself with others. Since I am starting to live and do things on my own, I think I have had to make a lot of changes in recent years. I have learned better ways to accept praise, give out praise, and how to take charge of situations and opportunities with grace. I hope that I can continue to develop these skills to be a better team member and, more generally, to relate with people in all areas of my life better.

r ways to accept praise, give out praise, and how to take charge of situations and opportunities with grace. I hope that I can continue to develop these skills to be a better team member and, more generally, to relate with people in all areas of my life better.

Example 2

The four questions in this prompt all touch on the theme of demonstrating maturity in different ways. Accepting praise gracefully shows the ability to accept positive feedback without either deflecting the compliment, which essentially denies what the person giving praise is saying, or gloating, which demonstrates excessive pride or ego. Sincerely complimenting someone demonstrates the ability to encourage others and strengthen relationships. It can also be a vulnerable experience for one or both parties since not everyone accepts praise graciously. Not flaunting special privileges or responsibilities demonstrates humility by not engaging in a form of social competition such as one-upping another person. Sharing credit with another person shows that someone can recognize the efforts of others in achieving goals without feeling threatened. It can also help strengthen relationships by passing on praise where it's due, which helps build trust in relationships.

Accepting praise gracefully is not always something I'm very good at, especially when I'm being praised for something, I feel insecure about. It's easy for me to accept praise for the strengths I recognize in myself, such as my work ethic, but it's not always easy for me to accept praise for my parenting. My first reaction is often to deflect the compliment with humor or give all the credit to my partner. It can be hard for me to maintain a balanced view of my parenting abilities when I know about all the times I could have done better. A coworker of mine, ******, frequently gives me praise for a variety of things, including my parenting. When he first started doing this, I would deflect his praise by saying things like, "I'm a good parent some of the time" or, "It's mostly my partner." Lately, I've been practicing just saying things like, "Thank you, that means a lot." It isn't always easy for me, but it's something I'm getting better at with practice.

Another habit I've been practicing is building up my coworkers to foster a better sense of team unity. The department I work in is notorious for stressful working conditions and high turnover. As I've begun to take better care of myself, I've also been better able to notice when my coworkers are struggling with stress. One section, hot prepared food, has been understaffed for a long time and the strain of not enough chefs paired with stricter regulations has been taking its toll on our head chef, ****. Recently, I gave him a note to thank him for all his hard work and dedication. His actions and attention to detail show how much he cares about creating delicious food for customers. He always keeps the bar full, clean, and well stocked with supplies.

In contrast, not flaunting special privileges or responsibilities is something I've been practicing for a long time. One example of this is my work schedule. I set my availability as Tuesday through Friday from eight in the morning to five in the evening. In my department this is pretty much unheard of and I received a lot of push back from a former manager because it was so inconvenient for her. However, it's pretty much the only schedule that allows me to go to school, work, and spend time with my family in a balanced way. Coworkers occasionally comment on how lucky I am to get such a schedule, which is true. I try to remind them that I don't just get to go home and relax or do whatever I want with my free time, though. I have school work, childcare, and household responsibilities too. I tried for two years to have an open availability and it was a terrible strain on my family. My son, then only two years old, would try to stay up until I got home from work, which often wasn't until eleven at night or later. Then, in the morning I would get up with him whenever he woke up, usually around seven. Sometimes, I would get a nap before I had to go in to work at one. Everyone in the family was exhausted.

Most of my coworkers know me and my family by now and are very supportive of my decision to prioritize my family over work. They have also noticed a difference in how much I can accomplish when I'm not overly tired or stressed. Sometimes my reputation for working hard causes people to assume that things that have been done well must have been done by me. One morning, shortly after I arrived, my coworker, ****, approached me and thanked me profusely for organizing and cleaning up the cooler area. I was a little taken aback at first because I hadn't yet fully worked that area. I thanked him, but after realizing a few minutes later that another coworker, ****, had done most of the work I approached **** again. I thanked him again for the recognition, but also brought it to his attention that **** had been the one to do most of the work that he had been praising me for. He acknowledged that she was also a very good worker before we both returned to work. I don't know if he passed on his praise to her as well, but I felt much better about not claiming all the credit for work I hadn't done.

Unsurprisingly, my level of maturity has increased as I've gotten older and learned more about myself. I've changed a lot since I was a teenager. My awareness of my impact on others and the impacts of others on me has expanded greatly since then. I've been able to use my greater awareness to push the boundaries of my comfort zone. In doing this, I feel more and more like an actual adult instead of just a tall kid. I've had lots of help along the way, but ultimately, it's my willingness to grow that lets me grow.