Think about the following three paragraphs. Which paragraph most accurately reflects how you think, feel, and behave in adult romantic relationships?

1. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being (Hazan &Shaver, 1987).
2. I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me (Hazan & Shaver, 1987).
3. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to get very close to my partner, and this sometimes scares people away (Hazan & Shaver, 1987).

Respond to the following questions:

• What are your thoughts about the relationship betweenearly attachment experiences and adult attachment styles?Do you believe the research is credible (i.e., do you see the connection)?
• Consider the above three paragraphs. How would you characterizeyouradult attachment style? Why?
• If you were a therapist and your client had one of the insecure adult attachment styles, whatsuggestionswould you offer to help your client develop a more secure adult attachment style?