Using a critical lens, describe what you believe to be the underlying message that McGillivray and Comaskey are attempting to convey in the following quote:

"If violence by one in a position of intimate trustparent, partner, family member is perceived as the community norm as well as the relational norm, the difficulty in responding to it increases. How can one be in special need of help if the same thing is happening to everyone else? (p. 9).