4. One way to engage the ideas we’ve discussed in this chapter is to talk with a classmate or friend about influences on your identity. Choose a person you feel comfortable talking with about somewhat personal information. Once you’ve decided on the person, ask him or her to share memories of scripts and direct definitions in the early years or his or her life. Ask how the person thinks those affected his or her self-concept, even today. Be prepared to share your own memories and their impact on you.