14.

Think of a positive experience in your life, once you experienced that you had great creativity, great insight or a very strong concentration around some-thing you focused strongly on achieving. In such a situation, we talk about that one just flows with and that time ceases. This may have happened in sporting activities, on a mountain hike, in love life, at home with the children, at work or the like. What is important to find out is a situation where you were really connected, and where you yourself felt that you made an excellent achievement, an achievement you were really happy with yourself. When you have come to such an experience, step into it mentally and imagine sounds, feel for how you felt, etc. Let this experience persist in your inner theatre for approximately 5 minutes.

a.

Now think of a completely ordinary experience in your everyday life, which did not affect your life in any particular direction, for example reading the morning newspaper, eating breakfast, sleeping dinner rest, drinking morning coffee, etc.

b.

Now compare the two experiences you have evoked in your inner theatre. Find out what the difference is between the two experiences. What is it about one experience that really affected you that you do not find in the other experience? Imagine these main elements in your inner theatre, as if you were making a movie out of these elements. Write down three to five of these main elements, the ones you find in the experience that really influenced you and that have been of great importance to you, such as helping others, achieving something, mastering something fully and getting recognition of others.

c.

Now think of a situation where you felt powerless (e.g. Exercise 12). It must be a real event that you remember relatively well. Now compare the feeling of powerlessness with the feeling of mastery. Play both of these emotions in your inner theatre. Let the feeling of mastery slowly dominate the other feeling. It is this feeling of mastery that you should bring with you in your future situations, as well as when you remember experiences that you did not master. The point of the latter is not to forget or repress, but to let the experiences come in a different perspective.
d.
Now make a simple rule of thumb from the elements that you wrote down in exercise

b, such as respect, responsibility and dignity (RAV).
e.
The next time you are going to accomplish something, whatever it is, bring out that word and evoke the inner feeling of top performance. Let this feeling irrigate the situation you are in.
f.
Now let experiences from your past, which are not particularly pleasant for you to remember, be sprinkled with the feeling of mastery using the simple word you have now developed, by playing this in your inner theatre.
g.
Call this word your placebo generator and bring it out as needed. Always keep it easily accessible.