Level of Difficulty in Coping with Divorce and Remarriage Example Highest likely level of difficulty A girl in the second year after her parents' divorce. Next highest level of difficulty A boy in the first year after his parents' divorce. Lower level of difficulty A girl whose mother has had custody for two years, and who has had a stepfather for two additional years. A boy whose mother has had custody for two years, and who has had a stepfather for two additional years. Lowest level of difficulty