Questions selected from the Fast Friends Procedure

Five Questions Selected and Used from Question Set 1	Five Questions Selected and Used from Question Set 2	Five Questions Selected and Used from Question Set 3
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? 4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you? 9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? 12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?	1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know? 3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? 4. What do you value most in a friendship? 5.What is your most treasured memory? 12. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?	2. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..." 3. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. 6. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 9. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet? 10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Application and reflection questions (two in total; be sure to scroll down):

1. How does the Fast Friends Procedure relate to Social Penetration Theory? Use an example from one of the questions you discussed with your partner to connect it to the theory. (three - five paragraphs total)

2. Reflection on the activityPlease feel free to answer any of the following questions (but you are required to answer at least one as part of the final reflection): Did you find that the questions produced increased closeness between you and your partner (why/why not)? Do you find that you engage in such conversations in daily life (why/why not)? Do you think this activity could be helpful or useful in other settingssuch as workplaces? College dorms? In other words, is there benefit to becoming close with colleagues or floormates, for example, at an accelerated pace? (five - ten paragraphs total)

1. Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute: Relationship Behaviors that Lead to Failure

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is&t=41s

As you watch the video (2:12 minutes), fill out the chart below and then complete the reflection questions.

	Communication Pattern	Example of Communication Pattern (e.g., You never take the trash out when it's full!)	What's the antidote?
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Reflection Questions:

2. What are situational or personal factors that might contribute to an individual using the four horsemen communication patterns?

3. Which of the four is most problematicaccording to Gottman?

4. Have you experienced or observed these communication patterns? What are ways you could intervene or prevent the communication pattern in the future?