Hello,

I believe the description fits OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) am I right?

"Reese is a 44-year-old married African American female. Her parents live in another state, and she is their only child. Her father is a retired Marine Lieutenant Colonel who was stationed both in the United States and overseas while Reese was growing up. She entered the Air Force as soon as she graduated high school at age 17 and has achieved the rank of Chief Master Sergeant. She has been married 15 years to John, and they recently discovered she is pregnant. The unexpected pregnancy has been quite disorienting for someone who has planned and structured major decision her entire life. Reese is fiercely loyal to her extended family and frequently travels to help her parents care for her aunts, uncles, and cousins whenever they experience hardships. Her efforts are not always appreciated, because she offers very specific guidance and is easily frustrated by their lack of follow through".

a transcript with additional info:

"Reese Matthews: Hi. I am chief master Sargent Reese Matthews. The United States Air Force. I pride myself on the 27 year Air Force veteran and I quite enjoy the structure that my job allows me to have. Life has been wonderful pretty much. I come from a very structured background. Here recently, though, things have kind of fallen apart. I've been married for a bit, and a part of being married is that of course I tell my husband or I told my husband what I expected of him and made it very clear to him what's expected in being a husband by writing it down. He agreed to it. He's in the Air Force as well. That has worked well for both of us. We like our routine. That's very important to us.

Here lately, I've been struggling because things have fallen apart in my marriage. I suspect that will impact my structure at my job. A part of my marriage contract with my husband was that we would save a certain amount of money so we could have children eventually. Specifically, we needed to save $497,000 so that everything would be perfect when we had a baby. Well, we have not saved $497,000. We have saved only $383,000. I discovered that we are going to have a baby. I don't know what to do. This is so far out of our plans. This is not something that we bargained for. this is not something that I bargained for. I don't want this to happen like this. I don't know what to do with this situation.

We are struggling through that process. I feel let down or I feel disappointed because a part of our marital contract was that my husband would earn rank like I did. Of course, he didn't. I'm very disappointed because I did all the work, earned the rank, and he has been goofing off. He has not earned the rank that he should have earned. I have tried to help him. I've given him lesson plans, helped him study to earn his rank and yet he has not done that. In addition to not earning the rank, that's one part of the plan that's falling apart and now we're having a baby. That's a second part of the plan that's falling apart. I am really truly, truly at wits end. I don't know what to do because everything in life has fallen apart. My life is a shambles of a mess right now. I don't know what to do.

Of course, I have done a very, very good job of sticking to the list of things that I'm supposed to do as a wife and I've done that. The same as what I've done as a member of the military. I've done everything that's on my list to do. It is my husband who has not done everything that's on his list to do. He doesn't seem to understand that he has to do these things and these things have to be done in the order that he is supposed to do them. Now I am stuck, literally stuck in this crazy place that I can't figure out what I need to do next or what we need to do next because he had wrecked all the plans. We had a perfectly laid out set of plans that we could easily follow, that anybody could easily follow, that he should have easily followed. I followed the plan. I did everything step by step by step that I was supposed to have done. Now he has wrecked the plan. He really has just screwed up our marriage.

Now, it's easy to see that the fault here is not mine. The fault is my husband's. Although he has been whining about this for years. He says, "Oh my goodness, Reese. You are just too rigid. Oh my goodness, Reese. We don't have to follow this list." I keep telling him we do have to follow a list of things to do. For example, I make a list for him all the things we have to do on Mondays and then all the things we have to do on Tuesdays. That has worked for us. That has worked for us for the last 15, 20 years. Even when we were dating, he would make little snide remarks about it. About the fact that I'm too rigid, I'm too structured, I'm too regimented. That I make all these crazy, crazy lists and he has to follow things in this rigid order, but it has worked. It has worked very, very well up until now. I think that he is just sabotaging everything that I have worked so hard to achieve."