Using Affinity-Seeking Strategies. In Chapter 3 we introduced the concept of affinity-seeking strategies, ways in which you communicate so another person comes to like you (Bell & Daly, 1984). From the list of affinity-seeking strategies presented below, compose at least one message that would help you communicate the desired qualities to a friend. Be sure to include both verbal and nonverbal messages.

Affinity-Seeking Strategies

Altruism: Be of help to the other person.

Assumption of equality: Present yourself as socially equal to the other.

Comfortable self: Present yourself as comfortable and relaxed with the other.

Conversational rule-keeping: Follow the cultural rules for polite, cooperative conversation.

Dynamism: Appear active, enthusiastic, and dynamic.

Self-concept confirmation: Show respect for the other person and help the person feel positive about himself or herself.

All communication involves such strategies. Practicing with these strategies will help increase your arsenal of ways to best achieve one of your most important interpersonal purposes.