4. The person you have been dating for a while says that you are too critical and too negative, and she or he says that she or he wants you to work on changing that aspect of your behavior. Although you realize this may be a fair criticism of you, you find it uncomfortable to hear. Further, you have no idea how you could eliminate or improve your tendency to be judgmental. In this situation, you would be most likely to

a. agree with your dating partner’s perceptions and ask if she or he has any suggestions for how you might reduce your critical, negative tendencies.

b. shrug and ignore the criticism.

c. say nothing and hope things get better.

d. point out that being critical is not really a major issue in whether two people are compatible.