Begin the process of applying this chapter’s concepts by taking a self-assessment quiz here or online—where you will find out what the results mean.

Purpose: To understand your own style of friendship Instructions: Answer the following questions about how you experience and express closeness with friends.

With your closest or best friends, how often do you do the following things: very often, somewhat often, not very often?

1. Talk about family problems Very often Somewhat often Not very often 2. Exchange favors

(provide transportation, lend money)

Very often Somewhat often Not very often 3. Engage in sports (shoot hoops, play tennis, and so forth)

Very often Somewhat often Not very often 4. Try to take their minds off problems with diversions Very often Somewhat often Not very often 5. Disclose your personal anxieties and fears Very often Somewhat often Not very often 6. Talk about your romantic relationships and family relationships Very often Somewhat often Not very often 7. Do things together (camp, go to a game, shop)
Very often Somewhat often Not very often 8. Confide secrets you wouldn’t want others to know Very often Somewhat often Not very often 9. Just hang out without a lot of conversation Very often Somewhat often Not very often 10. Talk about small events in your day-to-day life Very often Somewhat often Not very often 11. Provide practical assistance to help friends Very often Somewhat often Not very often 12. Talk explicitly about your feelings for each other Very often Somewhat often Not very often 13. Discuss and work through tensions in your friendship Very often Somewhat often Not very often 14. Physically embrace or touch to show affection Very often Somewhat often Not very often 15. Ignore or work around problems in the friendship Very often Somewhat often Not very often