3. Identify some of the “little things” that Dan and Charlotte do to strengthen their relationship.

When you’ve watched the video online, critique and analyze this encounter based on the principles you learned in this chapter. Then compare your work with the author’s suggested responses. Online, even more videos will let you continue the conversation with your instructor.
Dan and Charlotte have been married almost 5 years. They both have great careers and are very comfortable in their life and relationship. Dan is talking to his mom on the phone while Charlotte sits in the living room working on her laptop.
Dan: That sounds good. We’ll swing by after dinner. . . .
No, Mom, we’re still not sure. . . . We’re still thinking whether we’re even going to have kids! I really don’t want to get into that right now. Yeah, we’ll see you then. Bye.
Charlotte: How’s Mom?
Dan: Oh, fine. Wondering when her grandkids are on the way!

Charlotte: Your mom’s funny.
She’s really got a one-track mind.
Dan: We really should figure out if we’re going to do it or not.
Charlotte: Have kids?
Dan: Yeah, we’ve been married 5 years. It’s now or never.
Charlotte: What do you think?
Dan: It’s the ultimate commitment. If we’re going to do it, we have to do it right. I know so many people who jumped right into it and resent their kids for being a burden. I don’t want to be one of those parents.
Charlotte: Absolutely. And there are our careers to think about. We’re both doing great now, and we’re really happy as a couple. I’d have to cut back to part-time, and I’d need help from you. Having a child would mean less time, money, energy for ourselves.
Dan: But do we really want to have kids?
Charlotte: I’m not against it. What about you?
Dan: I feel the same. I’m not against it, but do we really want to give up what we have now?