2. Reflecting on Your Identity Scripts To take control of our own lives, we must first understand the influences that currently shape them.

Identify identity scripts that your parents taught you.

a. First, recall explicit messages your parents gave you about “who we are” and “who you are.” Can you hear their voices telling you codes that you were expected to follow?

b. Next, write down the scripts. Try to capture the language your parents used as they communicated the scripts to you.

c. Now, review each script. Which ones make sense to you today? Are you following any that are not constructive for you today? Do you disagree with any of them?

d. Finally, commit to changing scripts that aren’t productive for you or that conflict with values you hold.
We can rewrite scripts once we are adults. To do so, we must become aware of what our families have taught us and take responsibility for scripting our own lives.