4. Confl icts that seem to be about one thing, such as what to watch on TV, are often really about power, as in who gets to decide what is watched on TV. The next time you’re in confl ict with someone, analyze the confl ict to identify the power struggle, if any, it involves. As you make decisions about how to communicate during the confl ict, try to recognize the underlying power struggle and not just the obvious topic of the disagreement. Also, notice how the power struggle may be different in a symmetrical relationship as opposed to a complementary one. Document your fi ndings in a journal entry.